Here are seven tips to inspire and elevate your success in life. Because really, who doesn’t want to become successful in life?
If there’s anything I think of every day of my life, it will be the thoughts of becoming extremely successful. And I’m sure it’s the same with you.
And what is success if not the results of doing something extraordinarily over a period of time and doing it extraordinarily well.
Success can only be attained after a series of planned actions. But it’s since come to my notice that though many wish for the results of success but unfortunately they are not willing to work hard in other to climb the success ladder.
There are plethora theories on the internet today about becoming successful and it’s quite surprising that people search for and read these well-written-techniques but failed to put it to good use.
And to tell you the truth, for a moment, I thought and asked; what’s the usefulness of writing about this if no one is going to take the time to apply the lessons shared?
Actually, this is not for fears of people seeing this as a rehashed content but rather of how people will handle it – are you going to apply the shared points?
I just wanted to be sure.
Let’s hope you will. 🙂
I will tell you a little story…
… A little over 8 years ago I lost the most significant person in my life, my mum.
And life to me felt useless and empty because this was the only person I have ever truly loved. She raised me all by herself.
How about your Dad?
My dad – I didn’t know him until I was 17 and that was shortly after my mum passed on. And he also died. He died of a lung disease but I like to believe that he died of his love for alcohol and cigarette. Serves him right! I kid….I kid. 😀 😀
So after my mum’s death, things became extremely tough. It was hard, yes, it was pretty hard to eat three square meals a day, so what I had to settle for a 0 – 1 – 0. Sometimes if fortune smiled on me I’d turn this routine around to something that looks like this: 1 – 0 – 1.
Now, that’s the routine of my daily intake of food. It was that bad!
And then the big one happened when I had to drop out of college seeing that I couldn’t pay the bills anymore.
I go around with my toothbrush because where I sleep today might not be where I will sleep tomorrow.
I cried. I lamented. I cried again.
Until one day when it dawned on me that I was wasting away and I had to urgently do something to handle this situation.
This was when the words of my mentor, late Dr. Myles Munroe became flesh and clear to me.
That day, November (I can’t remember the date), in 2011, I discovered who I was meant to be, what I was called to do. Although it wasn’t until recently I knew who and those I’m meant to serve.
So friends, the first step towards becoming successful in life is to DISCOVER PURPOSE.
However, in this post, I will share with you some really cool ways to become successful in life and I am hoping you will put them to good use the various steps I will herein mention.
Still want to become successful in life? Let these 7 tips guide you …
1. Increase Your Confidence by Taking Action
It was Albert Einstein that said, “Nothing moves until something move”. And Newton affirmed it by saying, “All objects remains in a state of rest only when a force is applied”.
Actually, both men were on point!
I have in recent times learned that I become good at something that I practically set out to do.
To illustrate, I have always loved the thoughts of speaking in public. In fact, one of my dreams in life is to become a renowned and well payed public speaker.
No way would I be able to achieve this dream if I only sat in the comfort of my one room apartment wishing away my life.
So I made up my mind and I started speaking in public. But first, I started in my church by speaking to an audience of 5, then 20 people and in the picture below, I rendered my friends “Solarspeaks”poem to a crowd of over 70.
Taking action to stand in front of these people boosted my confidence in knowing I can succeed if I wanted to!
When you don’t have confidence in yourself, you definitely won’t stand a chance of becoming successful in life.
“So confidence accumulates through hard work, through action, accomplishment, and even through failure.”
2. Become the Authentic U!
Ever heard of the word “doppelganger”?
I first heard this word from the popular movie “Vampire Diaries”, when it was discovered that the main caricature Elena was Katrina’s look-alike (You haven’t seen the movie? Jeez! It was interesting).
While there may be 6 to 7 other people that look “exactly” like you (I’m still researching the truth about this though). It is expedient for you to always be true to yourself and stay authentic.
I shake my head in disgust for people who strive hard to look, talk, or act like someone or everybody else.
That’s not being authentic. People will notice this and will either not take you serious or dislike you out-right because they feel you are trying hard to impress them.
I am an old culprit and I am now living my life in authenticity of what I can think of, do and become in life.
To tell you honestly, I don’t compete with or impress anyone but myself and that’s why I am not moved by situations around me.
In fact, it’s why I have been able to send myself through college (a second time). The UNIVERSE will only help those that live out their TRUE SELF!
3. Go Ahead and Improve Your Social Skills!
Really, the difference between you and the man next door is nothing but skills.
But what are social skills?
SkillsYouNeed.com explains it this way:
Social skills are used to communicate and interact with each other, both verbally and non-verbally, through gestures, body language, and our personal appearance.
Human beings are social creatures and developed many ways to communicate our messages, thoughts, and feelings with others.
And I should think you know that interpersonal relationships is one of the highest needs in the corporate arena being that most business have a people component (what do you mean here) and the most lucrative positions often involve a large amount of time spent interacting with employees, media and colleagues.
How do you intend to communicate interpersonally with people if you’re not socially skilled?
Actually, being socially skilled helps you in various ways, which include:
- You become really good at building long and lasting relationships.
- You become a power communicator
- You become efficient in starting and having great conversations
- It helps advance your career prospects
- This increases your overall happiness as you become happy in bagging new deals with new clients.
In a research conducted by the University of California Santa Barbara economist Catherine Weinberger said;
“The most successful business people excel in both cognitive ability and social skills.”
She went on to add:
“They are both smart and socially skilled and these set of folks earn more in today’s work force than similarly endowed workers in 1980.”
Hence, building a social skill is pretty important if you were to become successful in life. However, in building social skills, you might need to read this article to see how it helps you build a business and your personality.
4. Train Yourself to Delay Gratification
Human beings have the tendency to push things to later and this is famously called “Procrastination”.
Do you even know that procrastination is a thief of time? It steals your time and ultimately robs you of your success.
Too often, people experience failure because they are not in the habit of delaying gratification. And Delayed gratification is one of the most effective personal traits of successful people.
People that delay gratification are more successful with their career, relationships, health, finances and really, all areas of life.
Gratification, is it bad?
If you ask me, I’d say it’s not totally bad but it becomes bad when you allow it eat deep into you when you cannot save a little now to gain BIG later.
People who understand and have mastered the art of delayed gratification often achieve their ultimate goals in life.
Do you even understand this whole idea of DELAYED GRATIFICATION?
Okay, I will explain.
Let’s say you have a blog you’ve been maintaining since the beginning of this year and you desire to grow it to the point where it becomes extremely successful.
You will want to start saving (money) and investing in this blog so that you can enjoy the rewards that accompany a successful blog.
Other examples would be to living healthy to get energy later or putting up with a job to help boost your career later.
In a nutshell, delayed gratification is about sacrificing NOW for the sake of LATER.
Okay, maybe you will be convinced if I share with you the “Marshmallow” experiment on DELAYED GRATIFICATION that was conducted by Professor Walter Mischel at Stanford University.
In this experiment, Mischel studied a group of four to six-year-old children who were given a marshmallow and left in a room for fifteen minutes.
They were given the choice of being able to eat the marshmallow now, or if they were to wait the fifteen minutes, they will be able to have two marshmallows.
Ultimately, some children were able to wait the fifteen minutes, whilst others were not able to.
However, the study didn’t finish there – Researchers continued to study the development of the children into adolescents.
They found that those children that were able to delay gratification were psychologically better adjusted, more dependable persons, more self-motivated, and as high school students, scored significantly better with grades.
With the latest study conducted on these exact same participants in 2011, the research has shown that the characteristic has remained with the individuals for life.
My deduction about this study however is that delaying gratification is a personal choice made by the individual to – have something now – or have something BIGGER or BETTER at a much later time.
My other deduction of Mischel’s marshmallow experiment is that when you delaying gratification you improve your willpower, which ultimately helps you reach your long-term goals faster and with grand style.
For your convenience, I highlight some really specific examples where delaying gratification can have a positive impact in your life.
Spend Now or Save Now – One of the most prominent examples of delayed gratification is for a person to be able to save their money now to be able purchase more desirable product in the future.
This has been the method I have used to procure many of the things I have today – My Laptop, my smartphone, and a host of the things I call my own.
Eat the Burger or Eat the Apple – this is another form of delayed gratification in that you delayed the gratification of a cup of water over a bottle of Coca-Cola.
You will usually reap the rewards of being healthier in your life, have less illness and have more energy to live your life to its fullest, thereby becoming extremely successful in life’s endeavour.
Smoke Now or Not Smoke Now – It’s said that “Smokers are liable to die young” but it amazes me how people still go ahead to smoke cigarette knowing that their life is at stake.
My cousin’s friend once said to me, “Sam, there’s this urge I get that lures me to smoking. I can’t contain it!”
I believe however that smokers, all of them, have the choice of having a cigarette now to give them a short-term hit or that can choose to not have that cigarette and reap the rewards of a healthier life later on.
Boring Job Now or Exciting Job Now – This is another form of delayed gratification and I love this one the most.
In the past, I have to do a lot of menial and petty jobs such as; bar tending in some hotels, waiting on people to serve them at parties, selling Nescafe tea on the street of Lagos, working as a researcher for some Travelling Agency.
All these were enough experience for me to launch into the business of freelancing and blogging as a business.
Basically, I delayed the gratification of having to start my own thing for working with people, which ultimately was the building block to where I am now and what I do.
Conclusively, the difference between the failed and the successful is that one is full of motivation and the other of procrastination.
5. Demonstrate Passion and Persevering Spirit
Passion is probably the reason you are still doing what you are doing today, not so?
Passion is pretty important and it is what motivates, informs and influences your decision not to give up on your dreams and goals in life.
It is the only distinguishing factor between the successful, the fairly successful, and the failed. It is a rather subtle word for ‘burning desire’.
What are your passions?
They are your overall makeup in life. They get you excited and create a burst of enthusiasm and strong emotions to success despite all the huddles that might lay in wait for you to get to the other side – success!
Perseverance on the other hand is the ability to wait patiently for years for the results of hard-work even though it is not forthcoming.
However, Google defines this as, “Persistence in doing something despite difficulty or delay in achieving success.”
The word persevere originally comes from the Latin perseverantia which means to abide by something strictly.
Juxtaposing these two phenomenons’ together then would mean to have a passion so great that you strictly and resolutely persist until the result materializes into manifestation.
I will close this session of my post with Calvin Coolidge’s powerful quote that reads something like;
“Nothing in this world can take the place of persistence. Talent will not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful men with talent. Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not; the world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent. The slogan Press On! has solved and always will solve the problems of the human race.”
6. Embrace a Growth Mindset
There are two kinds of mind-set and these are;
- The fixed mind-set, and
- The growth mind-set.
A man who has a fixed mind-set believe things like character, intelligence, and creativity are unchangeable, and that avoiding failure is a way of proving skilled and smart.
However, a man with a growth mind-set see failure as a way to grow and therefore embrace challenges, persevere against setbacks, learn from criticism, and reach higher levels of achievement.
Enough said. To succeed greatly in life means to embrace a growth mind-set.
7. Invest in Your Relationships
Writing this piece would have been a waste of my time and yours of course if I fail to mention the huge role “Relationships” play in the life of every individual.
In my quest for knowledge, I have found out that relationship is the highest need in the world!
Actually, this was more expressed in the 1943 hierarchy of needs developed by Abraham Maslow.
And in the 3rd level within the pyramid, you will notice the part that says: Belongingness and Love.
Now tell me, who doesn’t want to feel loved? Who doesn’t want to be in the midst of friends and chatter endlessly? Who doesn’t want to be connected with someone who will help them grow from their current level to where they wish or ought to be in life?
I bet everyone wants these things. I know I do. I surely want to be friends with people who know more than me and can walk me to the point whee I become extremely successful.
Now, to be able to achieve greatness in life, you will need to start building quality and long lasting relationships.
What relationships are you currently building? Why? How are you building them?
I believe, to the best of my ability, knowing, and understanding to explain to you the subject matter – how to become successful in life with the various tips I have herein mentioned.
- Increase your confidence by taking action
- Become the authentic U!
- Go ahead and improve your social skills!
- Train yourself to delay gratification
- Demonstrate Passion and Persevering spirit
- Embrace a growth mind-set
- Invest in Your relationships
So guys, if you are really serious about your life and really want to become successful in life, I’d implore you to take advantage of these 7 powerful tips to do exactly that from today!
It’s your turn folks…
Yes, I have said/written too much about this subject, I know and that’s because I love you as not just the readers of PAC but as people who are in the same game as me to succeed greatly in life despite all odds.
So it’s your turn and I’d love for you to share your thoughts about what I have written here – what you feel about the article, your take away, and how you’d take advantage of the shared points.
I will however ask you though:
- What problems are you currently faced with in your journey to success?
- Are you passionate about what you do at all?
- In what ways have you been training yourself to delay gratification?
- How have you been improving your social skills?
- What do you allow your mind to think? Growth thinking?
- What relationships have you been building?
Please try to sincerely answer these questions. The answers will surely provide ways for you to become extremely successful in your life’s endeavours. You can share it in the comment session with me below; I will be around to respond to you.
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